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Kindness

Practice never stops, but it does change. In order to help Jack out of the box we need to begin to practice kindness. Kindness is warmhearted, generous and friendly. It requires a selfless approach to others. The mantra "nothing in it for me" helps.

If we keep track of what we do for others it results in anger and resentment because we want something for what we give. Anger never satisfies.

When we are mercenary the giving is of little importance. If we dare to list what we give, we are tied up in knots of bitter feelings towards the other. Kindness is sweet and friendly and warm. If something is a chore, there is little kindness generated. If there is a sluggishness, a reluctance, kindness is thwarted. If there is dread, kindness is buried by it.

When we are angry we project out towards the object of our anger what we want and are not getting. We are fooled into thinking the object, whether it be a person or a thing, has what we need. Even if you get much of what you want, you will not be free. Freedom does not come from indulgence, it comes through the gate of renunciation of the internal thought that we need the object of desire. Anything can be an object of desire.

Kindness counts on renunciation. Renunciation is not self-effacement.